It's never easy when you know the relationship you are in is just not working anymore. While it may seem easier to just let things go for a while and hope that they will turn around and get better, this is never the best way to go about ending a relationship. Eventually, someone will have to step up and speak up, but it will have to be done gently. Looking for some tips on breaking up with your girlfriend so both of you can walk away with heads held high and a little less heartbroken? We'll discuss just that.
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How to Break Up With Your Girlfriend
Be Honest
You'll want to have a legitimate reason for ending things and this may take some thinking over. She deserves that at least and you may need to talk with a friend to come up with a deserving and reasonable explanation. You don't need the perfect reason, but you do owe it to her to have something you have put thought into.
Bring her some facts about why you are no longer interested in the relationship that support the reason you give her. Stick with just talking about your relationship and avoid comparing your relationship to anyone else's. You want to keep a calm tone and not be too aggressive of defensive.
Don't just say you want to break up and then dart for the door. Stay with her while she processes the information and talk with her for as long as she needs you to explain. She may be asking you a number of question and you need to be man enough to answer everything she asks. You may run into the same questions over and over, nicely point out that you've already been over those questions and should move on from them.
Do It in Private
Most breakups are bound to be a bit emotional and that isn't something you want your girlfriend to handle in public. When you are deciding how to break up with your girlfriend, make sure you plan to do it privately. Plan to meet her at her place or a quiet spot in the park and never mislead her by taking her to a romantic restaurant.
Expect a Lot of Emotions
It can be hard to tell what kind of emotions might be thrown at you when the break up happens, so be prepared for anything. Anger, sadness, and resent are just a few of the things she might be feeling; and you might be surprised what you end up feeling as well. If you are feeling emotional, don't hold it in and if you are feeling anything, don't try to force it to make her feel more comforted.
Be Firm with Your Decision
Don't fall into the trap of giving her false hope that something may rekindle in the future for you two. If you know there is no future for your relationship, don't give her the impression that there might be. This will only prolong the heartache for her and result in even more hurt feelings down the road.
However, before saying it out, make sure you do need to break up after watching the video below.
What Should You Avoid When Breaking Up?
Break via Text, Email, or Phone Call
It is juvenile and coward to break up with your girlfriend in any other way than face to face. While it can be a lot harder to face her when you are breaking up with her, it is the most respectful and even beneficial way to do it. This allows you both the opportunity to reflect on the situation and will often be filled with less drama.
Blame Her for the Breakup
It takes two to make a relationship not work out and you have made just as many contributions as she may have made. When explaining why you feel the relationship isn't working out be sure to point out what you could have changed to make things work. Even if she is to blame because she cheated on you or has been completely manipulative you'll want to be prepared for an argument. Remain honest with each other through the process and remember that breaking up gives you both the opportunity to find a lasting relationship with someone else.
Lead Her On
As mentioned before, you don't want to give her the impression that there is the chance for a relationship in the future. This isn't just a romantic relationship; this goes for friendship as well. If you don't see a friendship being possible in the near future with her, then be honest but gentle. Let her know that you hope you can both get to a place where you can be friends with one another down the road, but right now that's just not the best thing for either of you.
Tell Everyone About the Breakup
How to break up with your girlfriend is something you should keep between you and your girlfriend. Don't brag to your friends or let your mutual friends know how the break up went. You don't need to make your break up a social affair and not everyone should know all the details.
Treat Her in a Way You Wouldn't Want to Be Treated
Simply put - don't be petty. Put yourself in her shoes. Would you want her handling the break up the same way you are handling it? If you wouldn't, then go about it in another way. Don't cheat on them even if you know you're going to be breaking up with them and don't treat them poorly before it happens. Be respectful before, during and after the break-up occurs.
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