How to Behave and Think Like a Gentleman

What Is Your Personal Style?

In days gone, the term gentleman was attached to wearing suits and well-polished shoes. Fortunately, the definition has evolved over time. Being a gentleman is not pegged on dressing in a certain way, but is more about how you carry yourself and how you treat those around you. However, how you look can play a big part in people’s perception of you. For this reason, it is important to go for style befitting the personality and lifestyle of a gentleman. Make sure you’re always sharply dressed and presentable.

Proper Body Hygiene Is Important

As you look into your personal style, remember it goes hand in hand with hygiene. Put some effort to not only look good but also smell good. Women love men who smell good. Take a shower often and keep your body odor free. If you use deodorant and colognes, use them sparingly because too much can be a turn off.

Be and Act like a Grownup

How to be a gentleman? You were once young and stupid but are now grown up and wiser. A gentleman always acts and reasons like a grownup. Let everything you do or say reflect on your maturity. Something as simple as an email address can tell a lot about the kind of person you are. Your social media posts and discussions can also tell a lot about your maturity. Leave no room for people to doubt your maturity.

Mind Your Language and Conversation Etiquette

How you talk also matters. As a gentleman, it is always a good idea to keep your language PG-13. You need to watch how you talk when relating to different people. Cursing is not gentleman like. You will be surprised at how much most people find vulgar language offensive.

As you mind your language, also keep your etiquette in check. A gentleman waits for the other party to stop talking before they talk. It is considered a lack of proper manners to cut people off. You also need to talk in moderate tones, being loud is a bad habit. Be a good listener and only contribute to conversations that matter. No one likes a loud mouth or a know it all.

It also helps to read a lot and improve on your vocabulary. Also, be in the know when it comes to current affairs. Being smart is also a bonus.

Have Purpose

Aside from having financial security and a good home, there must be other things that drive you as a person. It is important to have something you’re passionate about. A gentleman must want to do something that will leave a positive impact.

​ Keeping Your Promises and Being Honest

You have probably heard of a gentlemen’s handshake. This is a term used to seal a nonverbal deal. While both parties can’t be held liable, they are expected to follow through. As a gentleman, you are expected to mean what you say. If you say you will do something, ensure you follow through. It is important for you to respect other people’s time and the trust they bestow in you. Always keep time and ensure you meet deadlines.

Hold the Door

This is considered to be one the signs of a gentleman. Hold the door for her when you’re leaving or entering a building or a vehicle. It is both romantic and gentlemanly. As a rule of thumb, the lady should always go first.

Initiate Things

This is especially crucial when it comes to dating. A lady will appreciate simple gestures such as asking her out on a date, making reservations, initiating planning for stuff you want to do together, being the first to call or initiate conversations. Pay the bill for the dinner you just had. Show interest in her life and what she does, and offer help where you can.

Pickup after Yourself

A gentleman always ensures that the environment he spends his time in is always tidy. While you may be good at personal grooming, picking up after yourself can be an added advantage. Ensure that your office, home and even car are always neat and clean. How you appear to the outside world should reflect in your private space.

Offer Compliments

As you learn how to be a gentleman, one of the things you should practice is offering compliments. If you are going on a date, remember to compliment her looks. Remember she took quite some time to look good for you. Always find something nice to say to her. This is a sure way of cementing a relationship.

Be Yourself

Being a gentleman is also a matter of being you. As you try to perfect the skill with the tips above, also remember that being yourself is a good way of standing out. It is ok to let your guard down. One mark of a true gentleman is being comfortable with who you are.

Put these tips into action and you will have mastered the art of how to be a gentleman.

Other attributes of a gentleman include:

• Possess at least one well fitted suit

• Do not use your mobile phone when having dinner

• Know when to clap

• Help a house guest with their luggage

• Know when to remain quiet

• Offer your coat to her on a cold night